For some people, this Christmas will be filled with sad memories of someone close who is no longer here.
When you’re grieving, everyone handles their emotions and reactions differently. Here are three tips if you’re facing the dilemma of how to handle this Christmas:
• Give yourself permission not to do the things that you’re finding hard to do - writing Christmas cards, putting up the tree, going to Christmas parties - it’s alright to let these go this year or next, until you can cope with social events again.
• Make a point of remembering your loved one in a special way - light a candle for them on Christmas Day, place an ornament on the Christmas tree to symbolize them, buy a gift for a needy child or family in place of the gift you would have bought.
• Allow yourself to grieve - the days leading up to Christmas (and other significant days on the calendar) can heighten your grief. Seeing other couples and families together just hurts. Seeing the empty place at the Christmas table will be hard to bear. It’s alright to cry and let people know that it’s hard living without someone special. Try not to bottle up your feelings. Now’s the time to tell a close friend that you’re struggling to put on a happy face and that you'd appreciate their company or simply their listening ear for support.
If you know someone who is grieving this Christmas, give them a call, write them a special card, invite them over for a quiet get together, speak up and acknowledge their loss, and have the courage to mention the name of their loved one … and let them know that you understand that it may be a hard time for them because it’s Christmas.
Source: https://www.mygriefassist.com.au/factsheets/factsh...

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