Holidays are a time to get together with your family and celebrate. Many people consider the holidays their favorite time of year. But for people who have complicated relationships with their family members, the holidays can be an incredibly stressful time. Here are two ideas to help you manage complicated family dynamics during the holidays.
• Give yourself space
It’s important to set boundaries and create space for yourself. Sometimes, that means actual physical space, like getting a hotel room and not staying at your relatives’ house. Even if they are hosting the holiday gathering, having a hotel to retreat to at the end of the day can give you peace. Drive yourself or rent a car if you must. Just knowing you can leave when you want to can be a huge relief.
• Prepare for awkward conversations and know your limit
If you know difficult topics will come up, you can prepare a response. For instance, if a family member body shames you (just as you knew they would,) you can say something like, ‘I appreciate your concern, but my weight is my business.’ Then change the subject.
If you’re uncomfortable with the topic of conversation at the dinner table or your family has started arguing, it’s also perfectly acceptable to walk away from the situation. You could offer to clear the table, take out the trash, excuse yourself to the bathroom or say that it’s time to take the dog for a walk. You don’t have to participate in a family argument. Respect yourself and your boundaries, and don’t take the bait.

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